Still Problematic

These are the odd things that happened to me lately.

I had this long lost friend (5 years to be exact) who surprised me by calling me up one early morning (1:00AM). He wanted to meet up with me. Of course since he was a good friend I actually agreed to meet him at Tomas Morato. He told me that I should look for this bar which his boy lover is a part owner of. Luckily before I stepped out of the house, I asked first the name of the bar. I was startled by his answer, "Butterfly Bar." And so I was frank when I asked him if it was a G-bar (G meaning gay) and he replied with yes. Without further explanations I told him I would only meet him if we'll be at dining at Pier One. (to be continued - I feel so sleepy already)

Continued today July 23, 2008...

But unfortunately he did not want to transfer to another place just to accommodate me. I don't know if I was too demanding or if I was just being choosy of the place but I know that I don't want to be seen in such a place because of its reputation. I frequent places like the music museum, pier one, the forum, dish and the likes of giligans and the many grilles but I have never been in any bar, especially not in a G-bar and so I really gave it a hard thought if I would be going for my friend since his lover co-owns it and it's like an invitation to take a look at what the two of them have worked so hard for.

And so I decided based on the lateness of the time of the night. It was already 1:30AM and I reasoned out that I have class the following day which is a Saturday, and true enough I have classes on Saturdays. When I got back to my bed, I slept.

When I woke up, I was asking myself why. I thought about my mom. I remembered the time my brother broke her heart when she found out that my brother went to a bar in Bulacan which is infested with a lot of GROs. And so I was glad I did not come. I have successfully set up a boundary for myself with which I restrict myself to entering establishments for the enjoyment of food and music only.

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I got another invitation from the same friend 3 days later. It was fine with me that he really wishes I could see their place but what offended me is what he told me thru SMS:

"Punta ka dito please tapos sama ka pa ng mga guy friends mo para naman may makita kami.."

So... I was being invited because my friend was with his gay friends and they all wanted to see new people come in the bar. I did not quite get what he was intending to do but I did not reply to his messages. Even though he offered to pay for one round of drinks, I did not answer. I just slept. Right now, I would just like to think that in those instances he was inviting me, he might be drunk already that's why he might not be aware of what he was doing. I was disappointed.